Wednesday, January 1, 2014

***Flawless Blogoversary

01.01.14  ♤♡  Page 1 of 365

Today is memorable for several reasons.
  • My Blogoversary ~ I started this blogmoir in 2011 as a memoir in blog format of events and people in this fuckery called life. It has been fun sharing my experiences with you. Cheers to many more!
  • Today is the first blank page of a 365-page book. I intend to write a good one.
  • I am starting to collect images, words, affirmations and physical trinkets for a vision board. I've heard about the positive effects of maintaining a vision board and feel this is the time to start. Last year was very rough for me; 2013 was almost as bad a year as 2008 was. So something's gotta shake! My purpose for the vision board is to bring positive energy by looking at the things that make me happy and goals I will achieve. I have a blank corkboard ready and set to go!
  • Resolutions set you up for failure. Instead I make a life change. Today is the first day I will set aside time to meditate and rest my mind. I will not overextend myself. I will value my time. I will create a healthy balance between work and play. I will allow more "me" time. *insert Flawless hands here*






 

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Somewhere in America: A Social Media Rant

{insert obligatory reason why I haven't blogged in over a month here}

Now that part is out of the way...


Social media has ruined America. Before you dismiss my rant, pick a random Facebook "friend" or Twitter "follower." When was the last time you spoke to or saw this person? Hold that answer.

I'm willing to bet $5 that one of the first things you do in the morning is check your feed on a social media site. I am also willing to bet you frequently reach for your phone throughout the day to check a social media timeline or post an update. Don't feel guilty if this is true. It's the American way! But it's a gift and a curse. We have lost all sense of communication. Seeing relationship statuses change, selfie and foodie pics on Instagram, up-to-the-minute Foursquare check-ins or live tweeting a television show with others has given us a false sense of communication and keeping in touch with family/friends.

Remember the days of dropping by someone's house because you were in the area? Or the days of picking up the telephone and calling someone just to say hey? These days you send a text full of abbreviated words beginning with "WYD" and ending with "Text me if you want to hang out soon." But you both know you won't hang out anytime soon. It's more of a polite way of ending the text conversation. 

You probably know more about celebrity lives than your own relatives' lives thanks to Twitter. You know more birthdays of friends than your own family thanks to Facebook calendar. And I bet you know every step of someone's daily life thanks to status updates and tweets. You "see" people all the time, right? When in reality you only played a time-sucking game, liked a status or commented on a picture. This DOES NOT equal communication. This BARELY means you've kept in touch. Now think of the question I asked earlier in this post. Did you REALLY just speak to or see this person or was it online interaction? Hmmm...

And now Facebook has taken away all privacy rights. Surely you are not surprised. It was a long way coming. I saw the writing on the wall (pun intended) when privacy settings had to be manually updated every other week. Ain't nobody got time for that. With these privacy settings changed, even more strangers can stay abreast of your every move. So maybe now is the time to stop posting your whereabouts, every event you attend, your OOTD (outfit of the day) and a pic of every meal you eat. I promise you the event will still happen and the food will still taste yummy if you don't post about it. (And speaking of food, for goodness sakes put your phones away when sitting at a table eating dinner. You're killing the vibe. Don't be rude!)

In the words of Jay-Z, "Fuck hashtags and retweets; 140 characters in these streets." Get off your computer and enjoy real life with real people. Thank me later.

 

Monday, September 2, 2013

Grown Woman

Some days, I want to throw all sense of responsibility out of the window. Being a grown woman can be quite overwhelming. 

 

Saturday, August 10, 2013

Beach is Better

That moment when you throw your hands up and say eff it. Some things just aren't worth it.

 

Sunday, June 23, 2013

I'm My Only Competition

dis·ap·point·ment  /ˌdisəˈpointmənt/

The feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations.




Yes, I mentally took a drive to Disappointment Ville and got comfortable. Quite frankly, I feel like a failure. It doesn't happen often but when it does...

I recently did something unfortunate that has me in a slump. No matter how many condolences, how many hugs, how many "thinking of you" or "better luck next time" texts I receive, it does not help the fact that I disappointed myself. Sure, I could blame it on the Virgo trait of being a perfectionist. I plan; I execute. Most times, all turns out exactly as planned. Then there are the rare times when the outcome goes so left, it take effort to make a U-turn and get back on the right path.

After the woe-is-me party is over and the decorations have been stowed away, the "Would've Should've Could've" thoughts kick in. I wracked my brain and there is seriously nothing different I would've, should've or could've done. Le sigh. So I guess this is the part where I tell myself everything happens for a reason, so oh well, must not have been meant to be. But it really sucks that I tried my all and didn't meet expectations.

♠ology: I'm My Only Competition

 

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Fix This Beloved


Iyanla, Fix My Inability to Sleep In

Iyanla, Fix The Midwest Weather

Iyanla, Fix My Going to Target for One Item and Leaving Out with Fitty-Lem Items


Friday, April 12, 2013

I Been On

 
Color me mentally exhausted. It feels like my brain has been dipped in seasoned flour and deep fried. If I listen carefully I can hear it sizzle. 

I envy people that can easily turn their brain off and meditate. Seriously, how do you empty your mind and pause all thoughts? I've tried unplugging from the internet, turning the TV off, disconnecting the iPod and turning my iPhone on "Do Not Disturb" mode. But even with no distractions, my mind doesn't completely clear. It may sound simple to just chill, but this is something I really struggle with. 

Me: Mind, please power off.
Mind: But I been on. Tell me who gon' turn me off.

Something's got to shake. So I hereby challenge myself to NOT multi-task. Sit. Unwind. Enjoy silence. Brain, thank me later.